We grew up; we can’t be what we’re forever. Life takes its turn. Then we ended up somewhere working for our living. It takes us far away from home. Some took it as a sign of achievement and success among peers. And it’s true in every way we take. But just one thing, we’re not with our parents who gave us the space to be where we are now.
Ostensibly, sections of our peers can start their families. It’s either way gently coaxed by our parents or we met someone with whom we thought we could spend our life. The final decision and the onus of carrying it out are always on us.
Then we started a family of our own. We have a dream home; a dream in which we wanted our children to grow up. We started searching for institutions, which might fit our expectations. However, most institutions have their inspiration and are made up of a group of people from different areas of life. They are the ones who fulfilled the criteria for working in such an environment. Yet sometimes they tend to wander a bit far from the ideologies of the one set up such organization or institutions.
Now, our children are thrown into the world – to embrace it, kiss it, and not run away, in the very first place. We the parents did our research and seek help to the extent of our knowledge and belief. Either way, both the parents and children are expected to follow the diktat of where we enrolled them.
The Grand Canyon Moment:
Let me borrow the term as put by Dr. James Dobson here. I know this time is arriving sooner or later. Every child now has a different pace of mental development. They need monitoring when they’re among the herd of children, not at a very intimate level. And, that is the role of us – as the educator and parent. We are trained to read their mind, not accused and intimidate them.
The worst part of life is being accused wrongly and getting intimidated to admit it’s our fault. Some have grown up with this trauma, which takes a very long time to heal. The Pinocchio effect cannot be read by one and all. Putting the children in the most uncomfortable circumstances pinched them down.
The Grand Canyon Effect:
One day, I got called up by my children’s educator. There I got to see the path my children had taken and where he is so far when I’m not with them. They may or may not recognize where he is at. But they took it upon their job as to inform me what he is at according to them.
To err is human, we learn from mistakes. In the process, we must not harm anyone. In handling the situation, we can crush the parent and children. They will surely remember you for that. On the flip side, once you help them get over it, then you are the hero who helps them in the journey of their life.
I saw my child hanging on one side of the cliff, in his age group. He needs a helping hand to pull him over with compassion and love. He is trying his best to cross over to the other side of the canyon. Many children get lost in the canyon unable to make it to the other side. Once they fall, their chance of making it to the other side is slim. They will make it but with bruises and braces that they will remember forever in their life.
Not a perfect world:
I would not go into details about the imperfections of this world. We don’t live in a perfect world; I wrote it over in my previous books. So, I’ll leave it just here. We’re not trying to make it perfect; we are just trying our best to be near perfection. And, that too, we shall not achieve it to our heart’s content.
In the process, we’re simply trying to shape them and pave the way for their journey. So, we poured our heart, money, and time into our children to get a good education. They are our best gifts from God and the treasure of our life. The world is deprecating; they have to learn the art of living.
The Real World:
The real world is full of tigers and tigress. We get intimidated to save others’ faces. The worst feeling is when you’re blamed for lying, but never recognize you’re innocent. The young men fall in the streets getting bruised but are likely to get up with help in time.
When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when by his own evil desires he is lured away and enticed. James 1:14
However, we’re overcomers; we can be overcomers to this pilgrimage. The journey isn’t easy, but blessed is the one who finishes well.
