Let us be more specific; do not speak ill of other’s father to their children. It can cost them their lives.
Someone speaking ill of one’s father is a completely different scenario. And it is also one of the possible outcome of someone speaking ill of their father to their children. But we’re less focused on that matter here in this post.
It is not by choice but circumstances had forced us to take a road where we meet people who know too much about our father. Our fathers had lived at least for two decades without us before we arrived. So they too must have been through much.
If you are speaking ill of someone’s father to their children you are breaking the house without a chisel and hammer. It takes a good relationship to build a house that would survive all seasons.
Relationships are between a father and son or daughter is God-given. Although it might seem absurd let’s called it ‘natural’ for those who do not call themselves non-believers.
Yet maintaining a good relationship is costly. It took a word to break it and word to mend it.
Take 1.
Please do not point out the negative qualities of a father to their child when the father is absent. In certain times, understandably, you might be looking after their children because the father is unable to look after his children. And, you’re so sure you can provide the solution to the case.
However, if you keep on telling the little or young children the negative qualities of his or her father the resulting perspective of the child changes. Since the child may not be able to see what you saw nor will be able to convey your motive you are simply ruining his respect towards their father.
Take 2.
In some cases, as a family, their father wanted to build a good relationship with you because you might be a family or some whom he trusted. Yet in picking out the negative quality over the positivity you ruined the process of building the bond as well as the relationship between the children and their father.
Take 3.
You might be unhappy with what had happened in the past. And now you see your chances of outdoing their father coming. It is a very good opportunity for you today. Yet the same thing can happen down the line once again. So, one should stay away from taking those chances.
Take 4.
Many times, by pointing out the mistakes of a child’s father, we tend to think that the child will learn his lessons very easily. But that’s not true. A child always had a special bond and soft corner for their parents in their heart. In the interim, you’ll get more hate feelings while you broke the relationship between a child and father. So, you are breaking the house.
Take 5.
The time will come, as it is seen in so many cases, the child will grow up and analyzed the situation when he or she no longer trusts his parents. The teenage symptoms and young adulthood will take over their mind, the children will no longer listen to the father.
Take 6.
When the child no longer listens to his father because he was fed with too many negative qualities of the father over his positive qualities their relationship is bound to suffer. Now with the child growing up he no longer sees his father as before. And then the house started breaking away piece by piece.
Take 7.
Now that is when evil spirits enter inside the house. Yes is true the evil spirit can be cast out in the power of Jesus Christ but it takes time or some people never recover from the hardened heart.
Takeaways:
Today is supposed to be Father’s Day, and father’s day is a happy day. Most of the cards and wishes read Happy Father’s Day Dad! I Love You!
Yet there will be people who do not want to wish their father while there will be many who do not have a father to wish them.
- In our role, I don’t know what exactly it would be, let’s try not to be the one who broke one of the most important relationships on this earth.
- Do not speak ill of someone’s father. Jonathan and David’s friendship story in the Bible (1Samuel 18) doesn’t record an ill-mannered word at their friend’s father but instill a love and bonding until the end of their days.
- If you don’t know the positive values of someone’s father, just keep quiet.
- Guard your tongue if you are a believer in Christ. (Proverbs 21:23)
- Profess positivity in the house and among children.
- Help fathers build a good house base on good relationships.
- Fathers are God-given, respect them. Don’t listen to others speaking ill of your father. They are not worth it. You cannot change a father.
- Respecting and giving honor to our father is rewarding. (Ephesians 6:1-2)
For my ending note, today I wanted to include what my son had opined as we discussed through the special days we observed through the years. He wanted a “Parents Day” to which the reason he had given is that both our mother and father are working together for the family. So, it’ll be a good thing to celebrate a day together but not a day apiece.
Dear readers let’s help build a good relationship at home which will serve as a strong foundation of a family. Then a good family will result in building a good nation and so on.
You might miss a thing in life but we must love our Perfect Father who art in heaven!
